Often
we have heard high school dress code polices referred to as a way to teach
girls self-respect. Apparently, only girls dressed a certain way – with shorts
and skirts to the knee and no shoulders showing – are respecting themselves.
Yet, these policies, or those who support them, fail to see the lack of respect
being shown to these girls by, not themselves but, the others in their school
community. Often dress codes do the exact opposite; they do not promote
self-respect amongst teenage girls, but actually damage it. Dress code policies
in schools have created an environment that shames girls for dressing
confidently in clothes that are made for them or are popular amongst girls their
age. Even in hot, summer weather some schools do not allow girls to wear tank
tops or shorts that are “too short.” Even yoga pants have been deemed inappropriate attire in some schools. This clothing was labeled by the school
as “too distracting,” although many girls in high school today would quickly
label them as “comfy pants to spend seven hours of the day in.”
Even worse
is how often girls are often called out of class in front of their peers or
teachers and then forced to go change their clothes when they do not meet the
dress code. The problem with their attire then becomes a more important issue
than their education. At a Staten Island High School, 200 students receiveddetention for violating the dress code; ninety percent of these students were
girls, as the bulk of the restrictions at this school apply to girls. Pulling
girls out of class or giving them detentions for how they dress can lead these
girls to feel ashamed of their bodies. Instead of promoting confidence, schools
are teaching girls what objectification is; when they can’t dress in a way that
they feel comfortable with because there may be eyes on them.
On top of
this shame there is the constant reminder that girls are a distraction. The way
girls choose to dress is constantly being blamed for boy’s inability to focus
in class. This objectification teaches girls to cover up to avoid boys from
looking at them, rather than just telling the boys not to look. When a boy then
calls a girl a slut, or other degrading terms that can often be heard in the
halls of public high schools, these dress codes teach girls that it is their
fault they are being called these things, rather than the boys fault for
treating her with a lack of respect.
Many girls
around the country are already taking steps to fight their schools dress codepolicies. Girls argue that if they are dressed comfortably in class they can
better learn, and that’s what they are there for, not to have others focus on
their bodies. However, maybe boys should be upset about this too; are they really
so easily distracted by a girl’s bra strap or a bit of her knee showing? These
policies hurt girls but also make these boys seem like sex-driven animals with
no control over themselves.
It’s time
to show girls that they are the only ones in charge of their bodies. To teach
boys that girls are not there for them to look at, that they deserve to be
respected no matter how they dress. And also to teach the adults in charge that
girls are not a distraction and don’t deserve to be shamed for the clothes they
wear. After all, we can dress in any way we feel comfortable with, be it no
skin showing or all skin showing, and still have self-respect.
This was really well written, I enjoyed reading it!
ReplyDelete"are they really so easily distracted by a girl’s bra strap or a bit of her knee showing?"
ReplyDeleteYes. Yes, they are.
"These policies hurt girls but also make these boys seem like sex-driven animals with no control over themselves."
Boys are sex-driven animals. Girls are sex-driven animals. I don't know whether intergender teens are sex-driven animals, but until I hear otherwise I'll assume that they are. The issue is not one of self-control, it is one of distraction. Is the classroom an environment conducive to learning?
I completely agree! Personally, if there was a dress code when I was in high school in not allowing yoga pants or leggings, I would be furious considering I wear leggings almost every day because of my lack of desire to actually get dressed in the morning... in other words, put on jeans at 8a.m. Why should the school worry about what I'm wearing? Shouldn't they be more concerned with how I'm doing in my classes, what grades I'm receiving, if I'm staying out of trouble, etc.? If our clothing is such a distraction for males, it would make more sense to have a talk with the males. Again, this is sort of a double standard because I'm not aware of schools banning any type of clothing for males.
ReplyDeleteThe school is worried that your attire will contribute to the creation of a hostile learning environment.
DeleteSee, here's the thing about harassment. Unlike almost other crimes, it is not defined by objective standards. Whether it exists is determined by the victim, not the perpetrator. Just as women say whether a man's actions towards them is harassment, men should be allowed to say whether a woman's actions are a distraction. Telling a man "just control yourself" should be no more allowable than telling a woman "get over yourself because it was only a joke."